One of the big things about Ryder and Arayas birthday party this year is that we are asking for NO presents please. This Idea was introduced to me by a friend over at http://lovinglifessimplicities.com/ and after some quick thinking I completely agreed. I had searched for how to do this for the past couple of years but couldn’t quite figure out how to politely ask them bring either specific items or nothing.
1. You see we live in small trailer with very little room for too many toys and clothes. The kids room is a very small room that they share and it has to have all of their toys and all of their clothes in there too. They don’t play with most of the toys they have and we really just didn’t have room for any more toys. Besides, most toys end up getting broke or lost within a week so why have people spend money on small toys that will end up in the trash before they are ever really enjoyed.
2. There are birthday parties almost weekly it seems. That is A LOT of presents to buy and a lot of money to spend. I skipped many birthday parties because I couldn’t get a present and didn’t want to go without one. I don’t want anyone to feel like they can’t come to our parties because they can’t get a present that they really don’t need. I just want everyone to come and celebrate Ryder and Arayas birthday with us.
3.We have made it clear that for anyone who WANTS to bring a gift can bring money and we will use it to take the kids to the zoo or the train museum or both and/or maybe buy them a trampoline. Carl and I thought this would be a good compromise so no one felt obligated to bring anything and we can take them on a trip that will be fun and memorable but not take up room in our house or one large toy that will last for years.
“You look great to have had a child.”
“You look great to have two kids”
“You look great to have twins.”
I can’t even begin to count the times that I have heard these statements. We have all probably been guilty of making them from time to time. I understand these are meant to be compliments. But they’re not…
Why is it not good enough to just say “You look great.”? Why do we have to point out the fact that you have given birth as well? Do our bodies compare differently than those of women who have not carried a child? Or, are we in such different categories that our bodies no longer compare to those of women who have not carried a child?
What you say: “You look great to have had twins” 🙂
What I hear: “You look great considering that you have twins.”
This one statement can get a new moms mind going in so many directions. Do I really not look good and they are just being nice? Do I look bad but the fact that I had twins makes it okay? Does the fact that I now have loose skin and stretch marks on my stomach mean that I will never be considered to look as good as I once did?
Us moms know that a pregnancy changes our body in irreversible ways. We also know that most of us at at least one point since having children have compared our pre and post-baby bodies. We are hard enough on ourselves without someone else pointing out how much our bodies have changed. So next time you tell a mom that she looks good, please just say you look great. Then stop.
Araya: MORE cookies
Me: No. You are going to get fat if you keep eating an entire box of cookies a day.
Araya: Sissy wanna get fat like mommy. 🙂
At Kmart today with my mom. Mom has Ryder on one isle while I have Araya on the next.
Ryder: “Where’s sissy”
Mom: ” I don’t know. Holler for her and I’m sure she will answer.”
Ryder: (yelling) “Sissssyyyy……… Where arrree yooouuuu?”
Araya: (yelling) “Wight here. Pushin buggy. Lookin at curtains. Come heere”
I went to bed sick last night. This crazy weather is making it impossible for me to breathe. Of course those of you with kids know this means they do not sleep well at all through the night. So even as much as I can’t stand to look at this house with toys strewed everywhere and dishes in the sink I just can’t seem to motivate myself to get up and do anything about it. Pretty soon I wont have a choice though. Ryder has already climbed on the kitchen counter and spilled sugar everywhere because he was “trying to make kool-aid” and now he is riding the vacuum cleaner around the kitchen like a horse while Araya has gotten into my purse and is now throwing coupons all over my floor. I really don’t even care though because the chances of me remembering to use them at the check out are slim to none. Oh and I just realized Bubble Guppies is still on. >.< I cringe at the songs on these cartoons.
But on a brighter side we get to get out of the house today. My mom wants us to go to Kmart with her. They are going out of business so maybe I can get some good deals. I’m hoping they have some good deals on car seats because I’m seriously considering throwing ours away just to keep having to clean God knows what out of those cup holders. Ewwwww. (not really those things are too expensive to throw away).
We have company coming over today. It’s already 12:00. The husband had to work on his day off and failed to let me know. Its hot but we live in Alabama and it was snowing a week ago and the chances of it going back to freezing within the week are still pretty high so we have no air conditioners put in yet. I have the doors and window open to try to get a good breeze blowing through. I’m trying to fold clothes before the company arrives. First thing this morning Ryder crushes a bar of soap into my eye lash curler and Araya decided it was time to paint her nails. and her clothes. and her face. I’ve yet to get them cleaned up. Because they keep trying to bring their bicycles inside and are now pushing the lawn chairs up and down the hallway. While Im trying to calm down and start a blog. For some reason I think maybe if i write down all the annoying shit that they do everyday it will help me deal with it. We will see.